Learn why people trust wikiHow. Download Article Explore this Article parts. Tips and Warnings. Related Articles. Article Summary. Part 1 of All rights reserved. This image may not be used by other entities without the express written consent of wikiHow, Inc. Accept that you can't control everything. One of the biggest reasons some people have a hard time loosening up is because they want to be in control of every situation.
They want to be able to predict exactly what's going to happen and when. Unfortunately, life doesn't work that way. It's filled with surprises and curve balls, both good and bad. If you really want to loosen up, then you have to get ready to expect the unexpected.
One way you can start is to start thinking of the multiple outcomes that can happen. Let's say you're up for a promotion. Instead of assuming you'll get it, think of the different options and how you'll react to them — you may get the promotion, or you may be told that you will get it pretty soon, or you may be told that you need to work harder if you really want that promotion.
There are some things you really can't prepare for in advance. Maybe you and your boyfriend are on your way to a romantic getaway when your car breaks down. Yeah, it sucks, but sometimes, you have to learn to laugh at the things you can't control.
Let go of being a micro-planner. If you obsessively plan every fifteen-minute block of your day, then you are guaranteed to be frustrated and disappointed when something doesn't go your way. Let go of unrealistic standards.
This is another thing that may be in the way of you loosening up. You may think that your teachers, your boss, your friends, your significant other, or anyone else in your life is able to read your mind all the time. You may think that the world should give you what you deserve.
Well, if you want to loosen up, then you have to learn to accept the imperfections of the world around you; if you want to be able to determine how everyone around you should act, then you should go play the SIMS.
People aren't perfect. Sometimes, they will be rude, insensitive, and immature. And that's okay. This includes letting go of the unrealistic standards you set for yourself. Be comfortable with making mistakes. People who are uptight freak out anytime something they have planned doesn't go perfectly because they made a mistake, big or small. You have to learn to embrace failure as a learning experience, instead of punishing yourself for not doing something as well as you could have.
Mistakes are a part of life and life would be no fun if we all completed our tasks like robots. If you've made a mistake, think about what you learned from it, what you would have done differently, and how you can use this knowledge in the future. People who can't loosen up are so stuck in expecting themselves to be perfect that they feel like huge losers if they misstep somewhere down the line.
Learn to let things slide. People who can't loosen up get hung up on every little thing someone does wrong and every little annoying personality trait that someone around them possesses. Sure, Katie got too drunk at your birthday party, or your lab partner forgot to My Uptight Life his part of the project, and that sucks, but how much energy do you want to spend wishing other people acted differently? The answer is, no energy at all. Learn to take a deep breath, accept that it takes all kinds of people to make the world, and move on with your day.
If someone is really partaking in irritating behavior that is driving you crazy, take some deep breaths, take a bathroom break if you need to, and learn to look past it. The worst thing you can do is to tell everyone within a mile radius about how annoying the person's behavior is; talking about it will only make you look uptight and is guaranteed to make you feel worse. Try to think about the scheme of things.
Will Bill's antics or Mallory's loudmouth really annoy you even twelve hours from right now? If the answer is no, then why not stop letting it annoy you this moment? Have a realistic idea of what to expect in certain situations. This can also help you loosen up a bit. Before you go into a situation, make a list of all of the different things that can happen, instead of the one thing you expect to happen, and you'll be better off for it.
Let's say you're throwing yourself a birthday party. Best case scenario: everyone shows up, it's the best party ever, people will be talking about it for years, etc. But more realistically, some things are bound to go wrong: maybe a few guests who promised to come won't make it, a few people will have five tequila shots too many and may fall into your bookshelf, and maybe your crush will act lame.
The more scenarios you have in your head, the less likely you are to freak out if something doesn't happen according to plan. That's not to say that you shouldn't keep up a positive attitude and expect the best.
But if you're aware of the other possibilities, you're much less likely My Uptight Life freak out and cause a ruckus if something less-than-great happens. Don't take yourself too seriously. This is another quality that people who have trouble loosening up all share. You may have a hard time laughing in the face of crisis, understanding when someone is just teasing you, or even understanding your own foibles because you think that you are a very serious, important, busy person who cannot be bothered to point out his or her own imperfections.
Make a list of your flaws and learn to poke fun at them! It's better that you realize what your weaknesses are than to have someone else point them out. If you act like you're going to cry or get upset about My Uptight Life little thing someone says about you, then no one will feel like they can relax around you. You don't want to be that person who stops people from having a little harmless fun, do you? See the situation from another person's perspective.
Another trick to being able to relax is to understand where all of those pesky people who are bothering you are coming from. So Marcia got too drunk at your birthday party and tried to make out with your lamp. Maybe that's annoying, but remember that Marcia got dumped that week and she's been acting a little off ever since. Maybe Mark didn't turn in his project on time; remember that he has been taking care of his sick mother and has been a little under the weather. Humans are, well, human, and if you think about some of the reasons that people may not act the way you want them to act, then you'll be able to accept their behavior more readily.
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